By : Marlena Stoddard
For some time now, your child has been away at college. However, the moment is finally coming when he or she is going to return home. How can you prepare for them to return to the nest, whether it’s just for a summer or much longer?
Prepare The Room
No, your adult child doesn’t need you to pull all of their stuffed animals out of storage, or replace their T-ball trophy collection on the shelf, but the room should be ready for him or her to sleep in. Some families turn the bedroom into an office, a gym or something more useful when their children move away, but it helps to have a simple, prepared space awaiting them when they arrive home.
Finding Room for Everything
Chances are, your child acquired quite a number of possessions when he or she was away at school. Rather than allowing their bags and boxes to clutter up your home, look into renting Chicago IL self storage units for all of these extra items. This especially makes sense if your child is going back to school in the fall. Even if your child is going to be living at home for some time, and you will eventually need to find a place to put all of these belongings, it doesn’t hurt to stage the move in with a storage unit while they decide what they want to keep and where to put it.
Responsibilities and Obligations
Your child is an adult now and should take responsibility for his or her place in the household. Many parents become frustrated when a child moves home to take advantage of free rent, and seems unmotivated to find a job or be productive. Much of this frustration can be avoided if a written agreement of expectations is made between parents and their child. Much like a contract for a renter, this gives parents and their adult children an opportunity to prevent potential discord.
Give a Little Space
When your child first comes back home, they will likely want to spend some time catching up with old friends, and taking a break from work or school. Be careful to give them enough space to socialize and be independent. Remember that until now they were probably doing well living on their own, and they may not appreciate the same oversight and rules you might have given them when they lived with you as children and adolescents. Good communication and a healthy respect for their agency can save a lot of frustration.
Perhaps your child acquired a pet while he or she was away in college. You could wind up inheriting an animal you never wanted if you are not careful. It is ok to ask your child to find a new home for their pet if you are unwilling or unable to deal with all the mess and work that comes from caring for an animal. Again, good communication and rules can prevent headache and bad feelings between you and your children. Be open and honest with your child about what you do and do not want.
Having an adult child move in with you can actually be a great experience, and a way to rekindle a deep friendship and relationship with them. Proper preparations and precautions can ensure that you and your child feel respected and understood as you learn to live together as adults.